like seriously, drop them now.
they’re toxic and prevent you from being productive and doing your best.
- comparing yourself to others. in anything, we tend to compare ourselves to others even though we know how unhealthy it is. stop comparing yourself to your friends and classmates because everyone works in different ways at different paces.
- complaining. i get it. nobody wants to write multiple essays or do fifty math problems. it’s either you do it or you don’t. if you don’t do it, there’s nothing to complain about. if you do the assignment, why complain if you know you’ll finish it anyway ? complaining is counterproductive and honestly quite annoying.
- being negative. “i’m gonna fail this test.” “i can’t do it.” everyone says these things to themselves, including me. sometimes i’ll say “i don’t understand anything” even though i’ve barely tried. have a positive attitude and try to believe in yourself. i think, therefore i am. speak your success into existence and put in the work.
- cramming. if you know you have a test on friday, start studying a few days before. rather than spending a whole 3 hours studying the night prior, study in smaller increments several days beforehand. take your time to understand the concepts. cramming stresses the body by trying to force memorization which usually doesn’t end up well.
- going out when you have homework. i get it. you want to hang out with your friends, but you really should get your work done. make an effort to finish most/all of your work before you go out. personally, the fact that i have work to do lingers in the back of my mind which lowkey stresses me when i’m trying to have fun. who wants that ?
- procrastinating. you all know why you shouldn’t do it so there’s really nothing to say. it’s one of the worst habits to have, and i hope all of you can work towards getting rid of it.
Okay, honestly? Bad post, OP.
Where to even begin? I could talk about how sometimes your mental health comes first or your friends’ mental health(s?) come first and sometimes it’s unavoidable that you’d have a conflict and end up doing other stuff instead of studying and cramming everything in the morning of the exam, but I’m sure everyone on this site knows that by now. Take care of yourself. Take care of the depressed li’l turds you’re friends with. Get your homework done anyway, if you can.
Here’s the other stuff I’d like to address:
– berating yourself for comparing yourself to others isn’t going to help. Neither is getting berate by others. We all do it, especially people who come from backgrounds that emphasized academic achievements (often upper middle class to wealthy communities will do this). It’s enough just to try not to; you don’t have to self-flagellate because some studyblr post ordered you to stop being unhealthy. Take it easy. Habits die slower than glacial movement; give your bad habits time to write their wills and shop for coffins and dictate their epitaphs.
– complaining. I get the impression that this post was written by someone with only the barest idea of how humans function. Sometimes complaining wastes time and energy, other times it helps you get over that hurdle of “ugh I don’t wanna”. And if you need to vent to a sympathetic listener for an hour before you can start studying for the three exams you have tomorrow, go for it. Do whatever you need to do to feel better about starting all your work. If it makes you feel better, hey, everyone complains. Just as long as you’re fine with listening to other people complaining when it’s their turn – what goes around comes around.
– being negative. Positivity is helpful, cognitive behavioral therapy has its advantages, but don’t ever feel like you have to beat yourself up for being too negative. Do you realize how ironic that would be? Sure, try to think positively, but if you catch yourself having negative thoughts and can’t pull out of the funk… it’s not a reflection on your merit, and if it’s too hard to counter the negative thoughts, just let them lie and keep doing you do.
– cramming. Everyone knows cramming is bad, the same way living on ramen is bad and staying up until 2 drinking is bad and oreos are pretty bad for your waistline. Try to avoid it, but… well. Realistically, it’s probably going to happen.
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